Day 11 of 28: What Things Have You Learned From Your Parents?

The things that I have learned from my parents are: 

-Speak when you walk into someone’s house or into a room where they are because it shows respect and can spark conversations. 

-Talk nicely because when you don’t it makes others uncomfortable and ultimately makes them not want to be bothered with you. 

-Work out your problems because running is for cowards. Nothing is meant to be easy and you always fight for what you love and what you believe in.

These are just the few things that jumped out to me right now, but truth is I learn from them consistently and this post will continue on for days if I try to dissect everything they have ever taught me in this near 28 years. 

Until Next Time… Live, Laugh, Love, and Be Strong, Because You’re Meant To Win

-Love Always Char …


…Healthy Habits…

Have a time preference order, consistency, and completion.
In my bullet journal (Click Here For More Info), I decided it was important for me to create a habit tracker. I needed something that I was going to look at every day and enjoy filling in when I completed something.
Most would think it’s simple to remember everything that needs to be done on a daily basis. I agree there are some things that should be automatic like washing our face, brushing our teeth, and gargling with mouthwash every morning. However, if I can be “H.O.T” (Honest Open and Transparent), it was not a natural instinct for me until I made the tracker.
I have to clarify HEALTHY HABITS are what I am referring to. In my humble opinion, when I know that I am following a daily plan and I know that about three times a day I will have a moment to check those things off, I get excited. I get excited because I know it is bettering me, my overall growth, and because checking things off a “list” fills me with accomplishment and completeness.
Today I challenge you to keep a habit log or habit tracker and realize how amazing you feel knowing that majority of your daily habits and chores are completely done for the day. Be You Be Smart & Get Organized… Your Future Will Love You!!!
‘Til we meet again, “stand up, move forward, and stay strong”
Love Always Char…

Resolutions? What Are Thooose?

Setting resolutions can result in setting yourself up for failure. I have what others might call resolutions but I call them goals instead.

A resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something
A goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.

The difference between the two is that a resolution is merely a decision but when you have ambition it no longer matters what decisions you make, you won’t stop until the goal is reached. A decision can easily be changed but with ambition the desire to achieve something is much greater.

Today I’d like to share 6 tips to make your 2016 goals stick and become manageable.

1. Make sure your goals are specific
You don’t want to make goals that are unmanageable because you will give up in just one week. As an example if you want to be more active, instead of making the hefty goal of walking a mile everyday, just start with 10 minutes. Make 10 minutes a habit and progress from there. Setting unreachable goals can become discouraging.

2. Make sure your goals are realistic
Make sure each goal set is catered to your needs. First off don’t focus on what others are doing, because their abilities are not your abilities. Maybe your goal is to get to work on time daily, but you wake up 5 minutes before you have to be at your job that is 10 minutes away. When setting goals you must be honest with yourself only setting goals that will work for you. Setting unrealistic goals will lead to you missing the mark and giving up on yourself.

3. Shine a positive light on your goals
Anytime you have goals get excited about them. When going to workout keep in mind that it is to help you reach the very manageable goal that you set for you, and avoid putting a negative spin on “the process”. Losing weight is tough so when putting in work adding negativity will only cause you not to work as hard or not work at all. No matter your goal keep the energy up and keep the process fun.

4. Start with small goals, and then build
This tip aligns with the example given in tip 1. When setting goals it is important not to bite off more than you can chew. If you have never run a day in your life but you set a goal to run a marathon in one week you will fail. Take each goal step by step. If you want to lose 100 pounds break it down in groups (as many little groups as you need). Maybe you want to lose 5 pounds first and once you reach that goal you may want to lose 10 pounds next. Either way make sure that your goals are in your reach, because when it takes much longer then expect that you will get burnt out, fed up, or plain angry.

5. Make a plan for your goal/goals.
It is easy to write down the number of goals, hopes, wishes, dreams, visions, and much more. However, where is the planning to reach each and every one listed. Anything is reachable when a plan to get there is wrote out made plain, and set in motion. Trust the process and continue to move forward.

6. Keep short-term goals separate from long-term goals.
When a short-term goal gets mixed with long-term goals it can look as though you aren’t moving towards any of the goals listed. It is important to remember everything takes time so if for any reason a goal isn’t being reached try breaking it down into smaller parts in order to reach the bigger picture.

Each of these tips are just ideas on what may help you stay on track for 2016. These are not set in gold so they can be taken or left. Add some and leave some, but remember just because you have a resolution or goal written down doesn’t mean that everything will fall into place. It just means you want something bad enough and have recognized it. Once recognition is accomplished let the work began. Your work will be different from my work, so on this 1st day of January 2016 I say let’s get started and make things happen for us because they will not just fall in our laps.

Think about your 2016 intentions, write them down, keep them covered in prayer, and make them plain.

×× Knowledge Is Power xx

Proverbs 18:15 NLT
||♡ Intelligent people are always ready to learn. Their ears are open for knowledge. ♡||

It is so easy to get caught up in the routine of doing things. I am sure we all have a norm and we definitely all have comfort zones.

In my opinion it is time to try something new especially if the “norm” is not working for you.

It is important that we do things differently, we do research, we read books that we normally wouldn’t read, or we just try something different.

Change is good and when you are doing adequate research you are not falling for something just because someone else told you to, it becomes beneficial for you.

Another thing… we must listen more. We do not have to always have the last word. Knowledge is power and I believe that God wants us to be aware so that we can discover what is and what isn’t  for us.

We must all live our own lives and it is no individuals place to come and say we are doing something wrong. It may be wrong to them or the way they wouldn’t do it but it does not mean it is not right for the person participating. 

We’ve  got to stop judging so much and be ready to assist the next person. None of us are perfect yet we are quick to point out the next person’s flaw. This very thing is in God’s word.

If we are without fault or have no speck in our own eye for then we can be judgmental or cast the first stone but it is not the case and we have to be aware of the things we say, the looks we give, and the way we ignore because that very eye roll can be the very thing to push someone over the edge.